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April 19, 2005

You lose...

Noah is going to start t-ball in a couple of weeks. I have really been looking forward to this for him. I played t-ball when I was his age and had a great time.

Tonight, I was checking out the rules for t-ball because I wanted to make sure I had a good idea of how things were going to work when he started. Things have changed a lot from what I remember.

Looking back 25 years at when I played t-ball, I remember practicing hard and playing hard. I remember winning games. I remember losing games. I remember that there were three strikes and you were out. I remember that there were three outs and then you grabbed your glove and hustled out onto the field.

After reading those rules, I am disgusted at what all the happy-go-lucky, feel-good parents out there are doing to our children. I think we are raising a bunch of kids that will not be prepared to handle rejection and loss.

Here are the highlights of the rules from t-ball now... Every kid gets to hit during every inning. They get to keep swinging until they hit the ball. Score is not kept and you can't even tell the kids if they won or lost the game.

What kind of crap is that?

I can't believe that you can't tell these kids if they won or lost a game. I really don't think that it is going to crush these kids to know that they didn't win. I know Noah well enough to know that, if he really enjoys the game, losing will motivate him to play harder. Will he be disappointed? Maybe. Will it crush him? No.

I don't want Noah to get the idea that winning is everything. I just don't want him to live in a utopic world thinking that he will always be a winner.

I am guessing that I'll never be coaching material.